Covet Sleep Schedules At All Costs
We are going to touch on sleep schedules. If there is anything I can tell you and you take to heart is to covet sleep schedules and stick to sleeping times the best you can. I learned the hard way how important it is and was able to figure it out.
I abide by my son’s sleeping routine and covet the sleep schedule we created. There have been times that I have told people that we had to leave early or not attend certain events to be able to stand by the sleep schedule. The reason I have done this is that I have found that when he sleeps well we all have a great day. That is more important to me than being afraid to offend someone or “miss out.” Sorry friends you know how that goes!
When my son was born, he was an excellent sleeper for a newborn.
It is necessary for children growing up that they sleep. Sleep is crucial for growth and development. It is important for the whole family to sleep for many reasons. For a happy family, it is also important for mommies and daddies to have some alone time when the kids go to bed. But that is a different article.
When my son was born, he was an excellent sleeper for a newborn. He had me fooled! He would sleep in four to six-hour stretches. I was so excited thinking that I had a sleeper! I love to sleep and was hoping he did too. After about eight weeks the sleep cycle changed. Damn it! He would sleep for 2 hours at a time throughout the night. Then he would nap for four hours or more during the day. I didn’t know what to do with myself I was so exhausted.
Here Is The Advice I Was Given With Best Intentions:
- Keep him awake during the day, and he will sleep through the night (like that was an option)
- Feed him a large dinner, and he will sleep more soundly (and he will puke it up all over you)
- Put him on his belly (against all the rules but this worked)
- Have him sleep with you, so you don’t have to wake up entirely when he does to feed him (and in reality, never sleep again in fear of crushing the baby)
- Let him cry it out (the neighbors will love you, NOT!)
- Sleep when he sleeps (yeah right)
- Sleep in his room with him for comfort (maybe but then you will never see your husband again)
- Nightlight (check)
- Music (check)
- New Moms don’t sleep; you miss these times when they are over (needed more mom guilt thank you very much)
- Call the doctor there might be something wrong with him (Tell a new mom this, and she will cry for hours)
Even the best intentions of others can create an overwhelming experience. Becoming a mombie was not good for any of us. So, I started watching my son more closely and followed his patterns. Then lightning struck! Trust my instincts.
I watched for signs that showed what he needed and when he needed to sleep. There wasn’t any waiting until he fell asleep I waited to see the signs he was getting tired. These signs were very hard to notice at first for me, but I kept at it.
Once I noticed the “getting tired” signals, we would go to a quiet place in the house and relax. My son would then fall asleep and stay asleep longer. My son needed the time before bed to “wind down” even though he was so little. Don’t we all wish for that time?
Every time he would go through a growth spurt we would have some hard nights. My son’s sleep schedule would change. He becomes a restless sleeper as the growth spurt continued. I stayed flexible and stayed the best I could with the sleep schedule we created. Keyword there is flexible. Try to keep the schedule the best you can but things happen, roll with it.
Becoming a mombie was not good for any of us
There was a time that we went through a spell with him that we thought he had night terrors. Come to find out, in our case at least; he was going to bed too late and having a hard time falling asleep. He wouldn’t fall deep enough asleep that he would have vivid dreams. In turn, he would “act out” these dreams while he was sleeping. Night terrors are like sleepwalking, they are asleep but talking, crying, yelling or singing.
That experience taught me that kids going to bed too late and get up too earlier are not getting enough sleep and that causes restless nights.
For us, it was that simple. After some time we were able to learn the signs of sleepiness, watch for changes and stay with the rhythm. Now my son gets his sleep, he is happier and doesn’t fight going to bed. Bedtime is a lot smoother and less stressful for mom.
My son is a little older now, and I still have him go lay down in his bed at least 30 minutes earlier than “bedtime.” He watches a show or reads a book. I give him the time to “wind down” still, and he falls asleep when he is ready.
Sticking closely to the sleep schedule times is the best thing I could have done for all of us. Even as he grows and more activities get later in the day I still stick to the sleep schedule as often as possible. I stand by my decision to covet the sleep schedule.
We are not experts on this, and every kid is different. Remember when you are at a loss as to why your kid isn’t sleeping start watching for the signs that they are getting tired. You will know them. Trust your instincts. Try to get them to bed before you go past the point of no return. You will see when the point of no return is; you will be pulling your hair out at that time. Hang in there!
We will Survive!